Define Happiness for Yourself then Take Responsibility for It!
Happiness is a Deliberate Act of Vigilance and Awareness. I argue that happiness should not be left for others to define in movies and dictionaries; I also contend that you have a Responsibility to write your own Definition for Happiness. Read more…
Happiness is not an esoteric state of being that is ephemeral and out of reach; it is a deliberate pursuit of bringing “The Good” to the reach of those around us. Happiness lives in Action not passivity; and does not have a Dollar amount attached to it. Happiness is a Multiplier and expands without needing to be divided into smaller portions; like the ancient Sanskrit quote says: “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened.” -- Happiness never decreases by being shared.
Unfortunately, Happiness has “blockers” that are at times self-imposed; for example, the automatic scripts that run in our minds that tell us we are not good enough; not worthy of the rewards we seek for ourselves. Negative Self-Talk plagues all of us, and these automatic scripts play in a loop all day long sometimes without us having a say in the matter. We must realize we cannot stop these scripts per-se, but we can override them with Mantras and Affirmations; and this is where the “Action” part comes in - we have to make time daily to sit down and start creating new scripts that empower us; Self-Talk that nurtures the positive goodness in all of us.
Some Mantras and Affirmation examples below Graphic:
Create your own Definition for Happiness! Here’s mine: “Happiness: The State of being Fully Present in this moment with a sense of Purpose and Gratitude.”
Here are a few examples of Positive Self-Talk Scripts that you may want to alter to sound like you and place them all around your life, so you are forced to interact with them:
“I Nurture my Spirit for ‘the Good’ Daily!”
“I am Grateful for my Parents and Friends!”
“I am Proud of myself for being a Hard-Worker!”
“I find Joy in the simple moments in life, like Walking.”
“I am Special and Unique; nobody else in the world is exactly like me.”
“I Choose Happiness, Peace, and Gratitude today.”
“I am of Value and have Purpose in this world.”
“I am Responsible for my Happiness; and I will Spread it freely!”
“I am Kind to others and to Myself.”
“Today, I Will take a moment to inhale Gratitude and exhale Fear!”
Positive Self-Talk will Not replace Negative Self-Talk overnight; you have to be vigilant day in and day out; make time daily to work on your Affirmations, and remember that ‘the negative’ finds a home in your mind faster than ‘the positive;’ you really have to nurture ‘the positive’ for quite a while for it to become comfortable in the halls of your mind.
Happiness is a Deliberate Act of Vigilance and Awareness. I argue that happiness should not be left for others to define in movies and dictionaries; I argue that you have a Responsibility to write your own Definition for Happiness. You may even borrow others’ versions of it, but make sure you shape it to sound like you, and it must feel right for who you are today. Allow me to share my Definition: “Happiness: The State of being Fully Present in this moment with a sense of Purpose and Gratitude.”
Let me end with these quotes, from Epictetus: “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” This second quote by Dennis Waitley resonates with me because at its heart is The Taking of Responsibility: “Happy people Plan Actions; they don’t plan results.”
Author: Key Yessaad is a Highly Skilled Real Estate Strategist, Trainer, and Coach, with over 20 years of Experience empowering Brokers and Agents develop the Skills and Habits they need to Achieve Success. He is a Listings' Strategist, Production Coach, and has created Innovative Real Estate Training Programs and Success Approaches such as the #10WeekTraining Programs and the Boot-Camp Success Workshops.
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Simple Breathing Meditation to Calm your Mind!
Learning to Meditate is not easy but oh so rewarding. You are teaching your Mind that you are in Control, as well as teaching it to sit for a moment, much like you would train a puppy. Our Minds require Discipline in order for them to provide us with Clarity; Let’s Reclaim Our Minds by Focusing on Our Meditative Breathing. Read more…
Fear is a powerful emotion. At times it can be a motivator to do better - but there are times when it causes dismay and angst. The more you feed Fear, the darker scenarios it creates. The Challenges you may be currently facing are not going to fade on their own, and we cannot let them push you towards Defeatism nor Resignation.
The best place to be in “the Now,” Right Now! The concept is simple: If you wish to think clearly start by “Being Here Now!” We can argue about the past, we can be fearful about the future, but the best actions are triggered when we are present to “the Now.” There are many ways to coax yourself to be present, in “the Right Here and the Right Now,” and one of them is Breathing Meditation. It is not complicated, and it can bring you great benefits - the biggest one is Taking Proactive Productive Action on the important endeavors of your life - and doing it with a clear calm mind.
Here are the basic steps to “Simple Breathing Meditation” - adjust them to fit your personality and your environment - steps below Graphic:
“Our Minds require Discipline in order for them to provide us with Clarity; Let’s Reclaim Our Minds by Focusing on Our Meditative Breathing.”
Find a quiet serene place - place your phone on silent and out of reach face down for the next few minutes.
Sit on a Comfortable chair, sofa, or in the lotus position if so inclined. We are striving to hold our mind in a state of focused meditation for about 5 minutes by focusing it on our breathing - that’s it.
Let your hands and arms find a comfortable place in your lap or legs - don’t strain. Take a moment to notice your body and relax any tension or discomfort in your body and do it gently without any pressure or jerky movements.
We are going to focus and notice our breathing, NOT control our breathing. You want to “breath” normally; notice how your body reacts to your breathing. Notice the air flowing through your nostrils, your mouth, past your throat, into your chest and how your stomach expands slightly. You are simply noticing the flow of your breaths in and out – you are Not molding or shaping your breathing. You may find yourself halting your breathing when your mind wanders; that is fine - just say to yourself “mind wandering” and go back to noticing your breathing.
Eyes: You decide what is most comfortable for you: either keep your eyes open, half open, or closed. So long as your eyes don’t wander around the room you are fine.
Remember: this is not about controlling your breathing - it is about noticing your breathing and being in tune with your body while breathing. Some like to start this meditation by taking a Deep breath through the nose and then a long exhale to signify the beginning of the meditation; and after 5 minutes of meditation closing with a deep Breath and Long Exhale. You are not required to have such a ritual - you decide your beginning and your ending sequence.
Breathing Meditation is about your Mind; it wishes to wander and focus on all sort of things - when you meditate you are forcing your mind to stay in tune with you and to calm your mind down; to let go of the fears and anxieties of the outside world and simply focus on your “breaths.”
Your mind will wander and will start thinking about other things; it can’t help it. Don’t punish it; just notice that it is engaged in a thought and say to yourself: “I see that you went wandering - I understand; let us focus on our breathing.” Is it weird to talk to your mind? - Yes it is; but very normal.
Many end their meditation by thanking their mind for remaining calm and cooperating during this meditation.
To Meditate is similar to training a puppy; you want to teach them to sit. So, to Meditate is to train your Mind to sit. It does not want to; it wants to run around and be distracted by everything. You are teaching your mind that there are times it needs to listen to you and just focus on the Moment -- This Moment “Right Now.”
When you lower your anxiety by Meditating, your challenges become ever so clear - and Solutions start emerging. How often should you meditate this way? Many recommend 1 to 2 times a day - especially in moments of high anxiety and stress. Remember this is Not escapism - this is a grounding of your mind so it can think clearly with you and for you.
Author: Key Yessaad is a Highly Skilled Real Estate Strategist, Trainer, and Coach, with over 20 years of Experience empowering Brokers and Agents develop the Skills and Habits they need to Achieve Success. He is a Listings' Strategist, Production Coach, and has created Innovative Real Estate Training Programs and Success Approaches such as the #10WeekTraining Programs and the Boot-Camp Success Workshops.
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Develop a Gratitude Mindset and Let Abundance Guide You
Real Estate Professionals are the type of Entrepreneurs whose business are “People;” many think they are in the Business of Houses, and they would be a tad off… a Gratitude Mindset goes a long way in building rich engagements on our communities; let’s find out what it means to develop a “Gratitude Mindset…”
Gratitude plays a big role in the life of Entrepreneurs and especially in Real Estate Professionals; your business is a “people business” and you cannot succeed by yourself sitting on island. You are connected to the Community, to your neighbors, and to all the people thinking about Moving, Selling, and/or Buying nearby. You are in the business of People Not Houses and therefore developing a Gratitude Mindset goes a long way to connecting you authentically locally.
What is Gratitude? The dictionary says: The state of being grateful. And Grateful is defined as: Appreciative of benefits received. So, what is a Gratitude Mindset? It is the state of living your life valuing the possessions you have, as well as the Achievements you have accomplished -- but it goes further than that; it is living your life noticing “The Good” that surrounds you and celebrating it regardless of you instigating or not.
Do not think it is easy to develop a Gratitude Mindset; especially when you are surrounded with “News” which really means terrible news about the world; and surrounded with some people who only see the horrible and terrible and have no time to celebrate the good. They look at you as being an Alien who does not understand what is truly going on in the world. When you say: “I am Grateful that the Plane is already at the gate and that the boarding process got all of us on the plane on time.” The naysayers would say: “Why are you grateful for this? That was their job in the first place; that’s what should have happened.” I choose to see boarding a plane as an act of Gratitude because it gets me to be with the people I am going to visit and work with.
“A “Gratitude Mindset” is choosing to Live Life with a Commitment to Noticing “The Good” all around us and Celebrating it!”
How does a Gratitude Mindset manifest itself in one’s daily life? This is the beauty of this mindset; you get to choose. I say start by noticing those around you and catching them doing something Right. One of the things I do is to randomly call my friends on Social Media and chat about their life and what they are up to. When you give a friend a chance to articulate what is important in their life, they become more passionate about it; so simply listening to their dreams and validating their journey is an act of Gratitude.
Another way to nurture a Gratitude Mindset is to bring to the fore this hard question: “What difficulties and/or upsets have I caused in others?” This is Not an easy question to confront; but an important one. It will keep you grounded on your intention of being an Agent of the Good; and help you rectify any unintentional harm you may have triggered.
This is not an easy journey to embark on, and some will ridicule your commitment to have Gratitude flowering in your heart, but the journey is so worthwhile. You will ease your Stress; You will become more approachable; You will experience more Joy and become an instigator of Joy in the life of others; and you will get back more, even though you are not looking for any rewards. Let me end with this quote by Melody Beattie: “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”
Author: Key Yessaad is a Highly Skilled Real Estate Strategist, Trainer, and Coach, with over 20 years of Experience empowering Brokers and Agents develop the Skills and Habits they need to Achieve Success. He is a Listings' Strategist, Production Coach, and has created Innovative Real Estate Training Programs and Success Approaches such as the #10WeekTraining Programs and the Boot-Camp Success Workshops.
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